Silent nights :(
It's true that I decided, even before my mother died, that I wouldn't give up Israeli folk dancing for a year. I also cheat by watching the occasional music video.
But my CDs are gathering dust in the cabinet, and I haven't listened to anything that I've downloaded. Nor have I bought the latest Shlock Rock album.
The toughest part about trying to observe at least some semblance of aveilut (the year of mourning) for my mother is that I haven't gone to a single live-music concert since her death, and I still have six months to go.
I miss music.
But my CDs are gathering dust in the cabinet, and I haven't listened to anything that I've downloaded. Nor have I bought the latest Shlock Rock album.
The toughest part about trying to observe at least some semblance of aveilut (the year of mourning) for my mother is that I haven't gone to a single live-music concert since her death, and I still have six months to go.
I miss music.
posted by Shira Salamone at 9:31 PM
4 Comments:
How is your husband dealing with this? Does he not listen to music when you are around, and if so is this a hardship for him?
Music is so important for my wife's emotional health that when my Dad died we agreed she would continue to play music when she wanted/needed to, even when I was around. I simply never commented on the music, even to say 'I like this' and certainly not to say 'could you switch to someone else, I really dislike this artist/song'.
The Punster's not much of a music man--he gets his jollies watching Israeli folk dance videos on the computer, with me occasionally peeking over his shoulder. But the no-concerts business has really killed our social life. (:
This is tough. I am not much of a music person, and I found it difficult not to listen for a whole year. My teenage sons also suffered (since I wouldn't let them listen at home - they had ipods anyway)
Oy. WBM, in your case, ipods helped with shalom bayit/keeping peace in the family.
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